A humble person lives differently than a proud one. How does your life measure up in the area of humility? Here is a sample list to help you evaluate how humble you are.
1. Recognizing and trusting God’s character.
A humble person acknowledges who God is and rehearses God’s character often. Because he does this, he trusts God much more than the proud person. In trials he would even thank God for the reminder of how much he needs Him and for all the good He is doing through the trial (Psalm 119:66).
2. Seeing yourself as having no right to question or judge an Almighty and Perfect God.
A humble man thinks of God as his Creator and himself as God’s creation. He does not see himself as even remotely qualified to pass judgement on God or what God does. He knows that his perfect and all-wise God can do whatever He pleases, and it will be the best for him (Psalm 145:17; Romans 9:19-23).
3. Focusing on Christ.
The humble see Christ as their life and their first love. There is no other thing or person that they must have. Through the day they talk to and worship Him often (Philippians 1:21; Hebrews 12:1-2).
4. Biblical praying and a great deal of it.
Humble people want to worship God and they see themselves as totally dependent on God for His enablement. John Owen once said, “We have no power from Christ unless we live in a persuasion that we have none of our own.” Because they see themselves as needy, they pray often (1 Thessalonians 5:17; 1 Timothy 2:1-2).
5. Being overwhelmed with God’s undeserved grace and goodness.
The humble person sees himself as truly deserving of hell. He is immensely grateful to God for forgiving him of so much (Psalm 116:12-19).
6. Being thankful and grateful in general towards others.
Humble people thank God and others often. They expect nothing, so anything that is received is greatly appreciated. (1 Thessalonians 5:18).
7. Being gentle and patient.
Humble people want to act like God, and they are not focused on what they want. They also want to love others the way God loves them. They are willing to wait and are not easily irritated (Colossians 3:12-14).
8. Seeing yourself as no better than others.
A humble person understands the sinfulness of his own heart. He would never see himself as better than others. This is true no matter who the other person is. He understands that he, in and of himself, is capable of the worst sin. He agrees with John Bradford who said, “there but for the Grace of God go I” (Romans 12:16, Ephesians 3:8).
9. Having an accurate view of your gifts and abilities.
Humble people do not bemoan the fact that they are not as gifted as others. Neither do they exaggerate their own abilities (Romans 12:3).
10. Being a good listener.
Humble people consider what others have to say as more important than what they have to say. They take an interest in others by asking questions and listening. Self is not their primary focus (James 1:19; Philippians 12:3).
11. Talking about others only if it is good or for their good.
A humble person will speak well of others, not negatively. He will convey something negative about someone only if he must do so in order to help that person (Proverbs 11:13).
12. Being gladly submissive and obedient to those in authority.
Humble people are first of all obedient to God, and then the authorities over them (Romans 12:1-2; 13:1-2).
13. Preferring others over yourself.
Humble people are willing to put others before self without first considering their own rights (Romans 12:10).
14. Being thankful for criticism or reproof.
Humble people view reproof as good for them and consider that God may be trying to teach them something (Proverbs 9:8;27:5-6).
15. Having a teachable spirit.
Humble people realize they don’t know everything, and even when they think they are right are willing to consider that they might be wrong (1 Corinthians 4:7). They also know that God can use anyone to teach them, since He was even able to use a donkey to teach Balaam in Numbers 22:22-35. They have many people they admire and respect.
16. Seeking always to build up others.
Humble people encourage others. They only use words that build up and say what is necessary for the edification of others. They never cut others down (Ephesians 4:29).
Humble people are on the look out for ways to serve and assist others. They are first to volunteer for jobs no one else wants. In the area of service, of course, the humble husband would especially serve his wife (Galatians 5:13).
18. A quickness in admitting when you are wrong.
Humble people have no problem with saying, “I was wrong. You are right. Thank you for telling me.” (Proverbs 29:23).
19. A quickness in granting and asking for forgiveness.
Humble people are eager to forgive because they know how much they have been forgiven. They have no trouble asking for forgiveness because they want to be peacemakers (Colossians 3:12-14).
20. Repenting of sin as a way of life.
A humble person asks God daily for forgiveness and works towards real change (1 John 1:9; 1 Timothy 4:7-9).
21. Minimizing others’ sins or shortcomings in comparison to your own.
A humble person thinks about his own sins more often than another’s sin. He also sees his own sin as more important to deal with than the sin of others. (Matthew 7:3-4).
22. Being genuinely glad for others.
Humble people rejoice with others when good things happen because they are aware that God has blessed them immeasurably and they trust God for what they do not have (Romans 12:15).
23. Being honest and open about who they are and the areas in which they need growth.
Humble people are open and honest about their growth in the Lord. They ask for help and accountability in the repentance process, knowing they need their brothers and sisters (Philippians 3:12-14; Galatians 6:2).
24. Possessing close relationships.
Humble people have friends and loved ones because they are friendly and love others (Acts 20:31-38).
Stuart Scott “The Exemplary Husband” pgs. 187-190